The following is… well, it’s something… written specifically for ex-girlfriends and former women I’ve dated, some of which specifically want nothing to do with me any more… however, I think this also applies to any kind of dropped connection, too:
You don’t need to have anything to do with me, I understand that. You don’t even need to be my friend, I also understand that. I screwed up and handled the break-up and/or how I treated you when we dated incredibly poorly, I definitely understand that. I am really crazy, like probably chemically crazy, we can probably both agree on that, too. And, of course, people often just don’t want to associate with exes (or crazy people), I understand and respect that clearly as well.
Nevertheless, I happen to still think you’re pretty cool, so…
What I also understand is that there is often an unhealthy, if minor and mildly annoying, tension – an almost NEED that we artificially create in our minds to protect ourselves – a subconscious (or very concious) game of thinking about how to avoid a person that we previously had some kind of fallout with whenever they happen upon us. At least, that’s what happens on my end. Of course, I know I am not the most popular guy in the world, so your side and your thoughts when seeing me in a room could be quite different, but generally, I think that’s what happens. Negative energy ensues.
But, I also think we all have kind of a common bond, and that’s our mutual associations, friends, and, potentially, future social exchanges of some kind, all of which remains worthwhile. As for the latter, I’m talking “exchanges” of information, business, or maybe even service, in the least. I think we just can’t close the “mutually beneficial” doors that life may present to us from time to time. I know that in my chosen industry, a networker’s paradise, we pretty much never ignore a soul because someday we might be working for them, and vice versa. Even if not financially. You might show up for that community volunteer gig and find out the guy you loath is the one with the clipboard! (more…)